In this writer’s words, nagging is a more advanced form of complaining; It is simply, the constant reiteration of a point of concern. There will always be complaints wherever you find human beings but how does this transform into nagging? The literal definition of nagging is, “persistently recurring, constant demand, fault finding, and complaints.” Men have especially attributed nagging to women but in reality both men and women nag when issues are left unresolved.
To men- Nagging is a tactic used by women to torment, frustrate, annoy, provoke, and irritate them?
To women- It is not nagging, it’s just about addressing an issue or wanting to be heard
Why do people nag?
To address a problem- More than often, people want things a certain way and the problem arises when it seems like things are out of place. Once the problem is discussed, a solution is expected but when there is no resolution, there is recurrence. With recurrence comes reiteration. It becomes nagging when you restate it more than twice to ensure your point is well noted and understood. Nagging pushes the receiver to and over the edge. Let’s not forget that, some people are naturally annoying, they make a big deal out of little things and nag the hell out of anyone around but they also want a problem to be resolved. Such people need special attention.
The truth is that, everything about nagging is negative because the person who nags is unhappy about whatever he or she is complaining about, likewise is the other person sick and tired of hearing it.
Best way to avoid nagging- Address the issue. You might not completely agree with whatever point is presented but there is always compromise.
Agree to disagree- Acknowledge the other person’s concern even if you have a different opinion, then state your opinion, and both agree on how to settle things.
You will not have to listen to it the second time if you’ll just do something about it the first time.
To the nagger- Give it a break and find other ways of stating the same concern without complaining.
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